The ‘C’ Word…

You know the word. We have all used it on occasions, and it’s a word that can take one’s breath away. AND it can take away the opportunity to achieve your dreams.

CAN’T.

That’s right, there are other words, but let’s focus on this one…

‘I can’t do that’… ‘I can’t put in that much effort’.

Sometimes, ‘can’t’ is hidden in sentences like ‘I’m not smart enough’ or ‘I’m not fit enough’. It’s not actually spoken, but you know it’s there.

The simple act of saying this evil little world puts powerful self limitations on you, preventing you from trying something. Of course, there are some things you really shouldn’t do. Like jump off the top of a building, because, let’s face it, we as human beings CAN’T fly under our own power. However, the Wright brothers were told they couldn’t fly. With limited funds and support, and up against a gentleman called Samuel Pierpont Langley who was given $50,000 in grants to create a flying machine, they made the first controlled, powered and sustained heavier-than-air human flight. Looking at the odds, anyone would have backed Mr Pierpont Langley (in fact, the Smithsonian and the War Department did, hence the grant). The Wright brothers were driven by a cause and motivation to change the world and they did it. They did not impose limits on themselves, they went ahead and did it, despite the obvious limitations.

Have you driven yourself to do something you weren’t sure you could do? In the world of fitness, you build a muscle by lifting a weight that causes the muscle to tear. The muscle then heals itself, and in the process becomes bigger and stronger. You may not be able to bench press 80kg right now, but by training and practising, giving yourself permission to lift a little more every session, you will eventually bench press 80kg.

And that’s the difference between the people who achieve amazing success and the people who do not. The people who do GIVE THEMSELVES PERMISSION TO DO MORE. What do you want? Do you want to be a good public speaker? If so, practise speaking in front of people. Do you want to be a better performer at work? Do the things that great performers do. But whatever you do, don’t say ‘can’t’. Replace it with ‘How Can I?’ and the results will amaze you.

Comments

  1. Hi Emma,

    I totally agree your frame of mind either opens up possibilities, or creates roadblocks that probihit you from achieving what you otherwise would if you were to approach the situation differently.

    Your apporach will either debilitate or liberate – and I know which category I’d rather be in. Thanks for sharing!

    James

  2. Thanks James! Why not be in the CAN category? There are a lot more options there. I’m glad you enjoyed the post.
    Cheers,
    Emma

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